Is there a counsellor for my situation?

We practice in all walks of life and all parts of society, helping children and their parents in a range of settings.

Why should I contact a counsellor?

Anxiety and depression are something one should not battle for a large part of life. It’s no big deal to contact a counsellor and to discuss your situation.

How do I benefit?

Counselling is based on building a trust worthy relationship between the counsellor and the client. It provides you the space to talk about your experiences and make sense of them. Counselling can allow you to express difficult feelings and to learn how to manage them in a helpful way.

What if I opt for anonymous counselling?

You can seek assistance via email or telephone.

Will my child and I be seen together or individually?

The voices of the children in the family are often ignored. For this reason, the child is first seen alone giving them an opportunity to be heard to work through current difficulties. Under such circumstances, children feel free to express themselves without being afraid of hurting their parents or of causing their parents to disapprove of them. Sessions are then held separately with the parents, and then together as well, which helps you understand your child better and learn new ways of interacting with your child. This process helps in enabling you to be a source of continuing support to your child long after the counselling has terminated. But depending on your individual needs, you and your child may see the counsellor individually and/or together.

What if my child says private things about the family?

It is important that your child feels free to talk about experiences in the family that may be troubling or confusing. It matters that you give approval to your child to talk to the counsellor. It is understandable you might feel worried about what your child may wish to talk about in counselling. However, you should bear in mind that the counsellor has ethical values which includes confidentiality. The counsellor here will not judge you or anyone else in your family, the sole purpose is to help your child manage their problems and try to resolve them in a positive way.

How can a child counsellor help my child?

Through one-on-one counselling, children have the opportunity to explore their feelings, aspirations, and personal development in personal, social and academic sphere. Children will develop strong foundations for personal and social growth, like stress management, acquire self-knowledge (values, attitudes, beliefs), increase self-awareness, develop interpersonal skills, learn how to make and keep friends, and enhance communication skills (with parents, adults, peers), Children will learn to implement strategies and activities to support and maximize their ability to learn, like setting goals, improve academic self-concept, acquire study skills for improved learning, develop motivation techniques to achieve individual potential, and learn to balance studies, extra-curricular activities, leisure, and family They’d have the opportunity to better understand and mould their personal interests and abilities.

Can I ask my child about the counselling sessions?

The counselling relationship is very private and personal, and each child will respond differently. Some children may wish to talk to their parents about sessions, while others, especially teenagers, may wish to keep the content of the sessions to themselves. It is important to be guided by your child and to respect these individual differences. There may be times when a child seems more upset following a counselling session, and this may be because the child has been talking about painful feelings. Showing sensitivity to distress of the children, while also respecting their right to privacy, is a difficult but important balance for parents to achieve.

Can I ask my child's counsellor how sessions are going?

It is natural that you will want to know how your child is getting on in their counselling. The counsellor here may arrange to meet with you to review progress. She will only do this with your child’s consent and knowledge of what is to be discussed. It is important to remember the counsellor will have agreed to a confidential relationship with your child and has a duty to stick to this. The only very rare exception to this would be if the counsellor thought your child was at serious risk of harming themselves or others.

How does counselling work?

Counselling is a continuous process where a counsellor uses a psychological framework to facilitate insight and awareness to help you discover your own answers.

How many sessions will it take?

This process takes anywhere between 1-5 sessions or even more, depending upon your needs. Each session lasts for one hour. You can start by fixing an appointment after which the counsellor will give you subsequent appointments after each session.

Do I have to pay?

Private counselling will usually be charged.

How much do I need to pay?

The fees for counselling sessions will be communicated to you once you have been given an appointment.

What if I am given wrong advice?

Counsellors are trained to listen thoughtfully and carefully to people’s problems without judging or criticizing. They do not give advice but support their clients to make positive decisions for themselves. A counsellor also does not offer any specific solution. The counsellor here is warm, neutral, objective, accepting and non-judgmental.

What if I am reluctant?

Relax. We do not turn your conversation into an interrogation.

What if the counsellor here fails?

However good we may be at counselling, some children/young people/parents may not be ready to talk to us or want to talk to us. This does not mean that we have failed. Sometimes, silence also heals. It’s all about feeling safe.

What is parent counselling?

Parent counselling is a way for you to reduce your stress levels and to increase your sense of confidence when interacting with your child. If your child is struggling with emotional difficulties or behavior problems, or if he or she has gone through a difficult or traumatic situation, as a parent you are likely to be feeling worried or concerned about your child. You may also be experiencing complex emotions like helplessness, anger, fear, frustration, confusion, guilt, shame, or discouragement. The counsellor here acknowledges all your feelings and comforts you with mindful and emphatic sessions.

Do you recommend family counselling?

It depends. The relationships between members of the family are deep. Individuals in the family are tied to each other by powerful emotional attachments that will persist over the lifetime of your family.

What is the purpose of this website?

This website aims to help you make a difference to children and young people's lives. It is to help children and young people to flourish.

Who is it for?

This platform is especially designed for parents, careers and anyone who's working with infants, children and young people (teachers, social workers, foster careers, health workers, school nurses, or nursery nurses).

What should we do until we meet the counsellor?

Take note of your actions and their possible consequences. Ask yourself important questions and check if you appreciate your children for their positive behavior.