When should I seek counselling?

Contrary to popular belief, counselling is not only for the times when you are feeling low or facing some major issues. One can also seek counselling to maintain a healthy state of mind.

How can a child counsellor help my child?

Through one-on-one counselling, children have the opportunity to explore their feelings, aspirations, and individualistic development in personal, social and academic spheres. Children will develop strong foundations for personal and social growth, like acquiring self-knowledge (values, attitudes, beliefs), increase self-awareness, develop interpersonal skills, learn how to make and keep friends, and enhance communication skills (with parents, adults, peers). Children will learn to implement strategies and activities to support and maximize their ability to learn, like setting goals, improve academic self-concept, acquire study skills for improved learning, develop motivation techniques to achieve individual potential, and learn to balance studies, extra-curricular activities, leisure, and family They’d have the opportunity to better understand and mould their personal interests and abilities.

Can I ask my child about the counselling sessions?

The counselling relationship is very private and personal, and each child will respond differently. Some children may wish to talk to their parents about sessions, while others, especially teenagers, may wish to keep the content of the sessions to themselves. It is important to be guided by your child and to respect these individual differences. There may be times when a child seems more upset following a counselling session, and this may be because the child has been talking about painful feelings. Showing sensitivity to distress of the children, while also respecting their right to privacy, is a difficult but important balance for parents to achieve.

How does counselling work?

Counselling is a continuous process where a counsellor uses a psychological framework to facilitate insight and awareness to help you discover your own answers.

What is parent counselling?

Parent counselling is a process in which your counsellor guides you through the difficulties of parenting. A child goes through a tremendous change through their crucial period of development and so do parents. It is normal for parents to find themselves amidst a rather confusing state where they might end up lacking communication to one another as well as the child. Such situation can create a disunited front which can mislead the child. As counsellor, we guide you through such situations and help you through the course of parenthood to lessen your stress and guilt of parental inadequacies.

What should we do until we meet the counsellor?

Take note of your actions, thoughts and their possible consequences. You can also try methods like writing any negative feelings or breathing exercises which can help to calm you. Ask yourself important questions and check if you appreciate your children for their positive behaviour and what triggers you and the child.

What if I am reluctant?

The counsellor here asks the right questions that help you to understand your feelings or actions better. She takes cognizance of the ethical implications associated with counselling and your information is not shared with anyone.

Will my child and I be seen together or individually?

The voices of the children in the family are often ignored. For this reason, the child is first seen alone giving them an opportunity to be heard to work through current difficulties. Under such circumstances, children feel free to express themselves without being afraid of hurting their parents or of causing their parents to disapprove of them. Sessions are then held separately with the parents, and then together as well, which helps you understand your child better and learn new ways of interacting with your child. This process helps in enabling you to be a source of continuing support to your child long after the counselling has terminated. But depending on your individual needs, you and your child may see the counsellor individually and/or together.

Are the counselling sessions expensive?

The fees for counselling sessions is generally affordable and will be communicated to you once you have been given an appointment.

How many sessions will it take?

It depends on the person as well as the intensity of the situation. You can start by fixing an appointment after which the counsellor will give you subsequent appointments after each session.